Missing Out On Purpose

It is oftentimes easy to miss out on purpose when we meet some that matches our passion and dreams. We have to be careful not to miss out on the purpose for which ,God created the meeting. #Inquiry

Life they say begins with a meeting

They met in church. Never really spoke spoke to each other but every gaze was defined. It had deep rooted visible meanings not just to her but to all that saw. This is perfect. God knows how to answer prayers that keep all the compatibility checks in place( spiritual, emotional, financial, communication … add to her list)

It seemed like everything she prayed for. Their purpose and passions we so in line and yes they were all serving in church. Church doesn’t kill the demons we have Christ does. Things seemed great till other girls furry grew. Unknown to her his past and present fondling’s with them was the cause. How do you do church and still try to play “Christ”.

She talked to him about it. Her zeal for God seemed to trim the sloppiness of his faith. Time and age was pressing on their relationship. Insecurities set in and pride took over. Pride and love cannot co-exist. Never. Too many emotional wounds and blackmails grew. Compromise was beginning to have foothold. The strong hold had to be broken. We often want to impose our answers on God and yet ask for His “Will”. They had to sit down and be honest with each other. They were trying to impose on destiny and not pursue destiny. They parted ways and remain distant friends and now both basking in the Glory of His goodness. If live makes their part cross again, good but if not purpose is being lived in their separate lives

LADIES- TRUTHS TO KNOW

After my earlier post on GUYS- TRUTHS TO KNOW, so many beautiful comments and remarks came in and above all some honest criticism followed like” you are biased by leaving the guys section out”. So now ladies these are a few truth we have to know so that we do not end up cursing no one but ourselves. Men bow to Respect, Loyalty and Care.

A girl who does not fear God will hardly be his pick when he finally decides is isle time. To them it goes beyond beauty and brains. He needs to be sure that his investment won’t be reinvested in a wrong place (lol)

A ladies worth is more in her character than her appearance. Before you start quoting wrong, please look good, dress good, smell good, put the right make it but be sure to know that it goes beyond the physical. It’s not like as it’s popularly said that they look for their mama in you, no; they just need to know that you know loyalty, tenacity and will teach the kids right morals.

A lady who cannot cook, clean and handle basic domestic chaos is not even on the list of possible winners. Call it 14^th century or 21^st; the belly power stands out. No one is asking you to be “master chef” or spring cleaning expert. You won’t want to blame Delilah for taking care of the man you ought to have handled right.

A lady who is too swallowed up in “miss independent” disqualifies herself. It is good to work and be able to handle stuffs but men are providers. No man rich or poor, fat or slim, tall or short will let the part of his ego be trample because you are a career woman and financially viable. Everything has its place. Men Pursue, Provide and Protect. Take this away from them and you will not be the one; can never I beg to say.

A lady who doesn’t know how to pamper her man, well you know what they say; all men are big babies. Like us they need affection. They need some tender loving. I didn’t say you should start doing to bfs what is done to husbands but in all pampering has its place in all. Do not be all “Margret Tachery” and needy like they too do not have needs. No man likes to be nagged at.

A lady who cannot comprehend that men love their mothers and will somewhat want a piece of that in their wife doesn’t imply that they need you bossing down their throats and acting all control freak. Let them have their space and they will make adequate room for you J

Men are not only after beauty but brains. A lazy woman who thinks a man should be her sponsor is in for a loss. Ladies get working. Do not see him as a solely a provider and you the eater be a contributor.

It’s not compatibility but suitability.

Let me know what you think?

Love Bluff

What?

You call my love a bluff?

Don’t get me wrong okay

You are right to call my love a bluff

Is that truly what it is?

Or is it that you are so used to wrong love that you can’t identify pure love?

Yes, pure love

You are so use to quickies that a wait is just wrong

You are so use to been lied too that the truth is cliché

You are used to games that honest moves you doubt

Your foolhardiness churns me

Do not blame your wrong love on me

You only attracted what you rated yourself to have

You are worth more but what if you do not know so?

What if you keep rating yourself needy and desperate?

How is that my fault?

I can’t let my love be a bluff

I won’t let you convert me

I will walk away and pray

Pray that you heal to identify love

A love that heals

A love that is true

A love that is genuine

A love that seeks out the best and to be the best

I pray you will not bluff true love when next it comes

I love you yet i love me too

Robbing Peter to pay Paul is not me

How To Be Found By Yours- 5

Getting found is a process. Patience is needed for the process to be materialized as well as established. In as much as the man has to do the finding, the lady has to ensure she is adequately positioned. If interest and attraction already in place, check to see that your priorities in place and more so it won’t hurt to do some compatibility checks.

1. Spiritual Compatibility  (Amos 3:3)
2. Financial Compatibility ( Heb 13:5, Matt6:24 , Prov 17:16)
3. Character Compatibility (Prov 22:24)
4. Emotional Compatibility (Prov 27:17)
5. Communication Compatibility ( Eph 4:26, Prov 18:13)
6. Physical Compatibility (1 Pet 3:3-4, Gen 24:16, Gen 29:17, I sam 16:12, Est 2:7)

Yes compatibility checks. This will help you know if you have found yours or the finding process needs to continue. All categories must not be 100% but which ever you choose to make prime, it should be based on the purpose you believe you are here on earth to fulfill. Hope the list helps

Don’t Choke On It

We all get the rough patches in life and too we walk in the blissful ones. So why beat yourself so bad for the wrong decisions you made. I am a strong believer in love and the many things that I love and believe in (food, cloths, music). I know it hurts when you believe in something/ someone and it lets you down. You often feel like you didn’t just make a mistake but you are a mistake.

You stay down choking on your mistakes. You have to forgive yourself. I have had my share of mistakes and honesty there was nothing to write home about. Knowledge dropped that my hurt will heal when I first forgive myself and know that I am human; I make mistakes but I can be better and work towards perfection.

It Beats Riches

A true friend is one who does not search for wealth, riches or company but searches for understanding, trust and care which goes to yield true happiness.A true friend is one who we adore, respect and cherish; and it must be reciprocal, against all odds.

A true friend is one who does not strive to be loved and to love in return, knowing that love is not just a matter of sharing but instead brings in you a powerful sense of understanding and belonging.

A true friend is one who does not worry about love and is not judgmental, because love is the knowledge but honors its coming with soul, body and spirit.

Loud Thoughts : Cheating On God

Have you ever been so busy so much that you feel like you are cheating on God? Yes cheating!

You miss out on your bible study schedule, you miss and forget your prayer appointments, activities replace your date hours with Him? This is how I feel some days eg today. However, the good thing is that live is not about feelings and so because I love Him I will not let feelings hurt my heart walk and separate us, I receive His reminders in my spirit. If I dwell on the feeling it becomes a guilt trap of the enemy so I decide not to give it room but instead appreciate the consciousness of the Spirit in me , putting me to remembrance. I will keep pressing into His love in my little mutterings, whispers of thank you Lord under my breath.

Thank God for work but even more thank Him more for seeing Him even in your busy schedules. Happy Palm Sunday

Much love

Purposeful Meeting

Their eyes met

She felt shy and nervous in her reins

Tiny were his eyes yet intense

Silly! She is pondering on why the thoughts about him

Unaware how he crept into her

But sure divinity is working things out

Expect Love and More Love

we often times work so hard to get people to like and love us. We become another version of ourselves seeking acceptance. Contrary to God’s own formula, He seeks us out to love us and give us love, unfailing love. With Him, our expectation si allowed to be love and more love. (Jer 31:3) Prayer: Father help me to let you love me.

Even when we left Him down by our disobedient ways, oh He is still ever willing to start all over with us again not remembering any pain or hurt we might have caused Him and instead works at bringing out the best in us show. How can you deny such

Foolling Our Ways

How dare you try to make a fool of me?

We warn, we get mad and rash with people not inline with our expectations

How many times have we made a fool of His works

How many times have we made the blood to act as losing it’s power

How often have made the Cross seem like just a curse

How many times have we spoiled His spotless apparel

How many times have we made leaving the splendor of heaven a by thing

Mercy, mercy and more mercy is what can and should keep crying

Grace , grace and more grace