Relationship Goals

Ask a business man what a goal is and you will know that setting sex as a goal in your relationships is a dumb thing to do and if you are yet to be married and sex is still a goal to you, you need to seek a therapist… #loudthoughts

Happy new month

LADIES- TRUTHS TO KNOW

After my earlier post on GUYS- TRUTHS TO KNOW, so many beautiful comments and remarks came in and above all some honest criticism followed like” you are biased by leaving the guys section out”. So now ladies these are a few truth we have to know so that we do not end up cursing no one but ourselves. Men bow to Respect, Loyalty and Care.

A girl who does not fear God will hardly be his pick when he finally decides is isle time. To them it goes beyond beauty and brains. He needs to be sure that his investment won’t be reinvested in a wrong place (lol)

A ladies worth is more in her character than her appearance. Before you start quoting wrong, please look good, dress good, smell good, put the right make it but be sure to know that it goes beyond the physical. It’s not like as it’s popularly said that they look for their mama in you, no; they just need to know that you know loyalty, tenacity and will teach the kids right morals.

A lady who cannot cook, clean and handle basic domestic chaos is not even on the list of possible winners. Call it 14^th century or 21^st; the belly power stands out. No one is asking you to be “master chef” or spring cleaning expert. You won’t want to blame Delilah for taking care of the man you ought to have handled right.

A lady who is too swallowed up in “miss independent” disqualifies herself. It is good to work and be able to handle stuffs but men are providers. No man rich or poor, fat or slim, tall or short will let the part of his ego be trample because you are a career woman and financially viable. Everything has its place. Men Pursue, Provide and Protect. Take this away from them and you will not be the one; can never I beg to say.

A lady who doesn’t know how to pamper her man, well you know what they say; all men are big babies. Like us they need affection. They need some tender loving. I didn’t say you should start doing to bfs what is done to husbands but in all pampering has its place in all. Do not be all “Margret Tachery” and needy like they too do not have needs. No man likes to be nagged at.

A lady who cannot comprehend that men love their mothers and will somewhat want a piece of that in their wife doesn’t imply that they need you bossing down their throats and acting all control freak. Let them have their space and they will make adequate room for you J

Men are not only after beauty but brains. A lazy woman who thinks a man should be her sponsor is in for a loss. Ladies get working. Do not see him as a solely a provider and you the eater be a contributor.

It’s not compatibility but suitability.

Let me know what you think?

Wisdom Quote: Love

#TeachingLove

Six Tips To Be At Peace In Your Singleness

We are in a generation of boo and bae and so you who is in a relationship if your focus is not right might begin to feel left out and possibly unloved but that should not be the case. You can still be happy and enjoy life even without a boo or bae. They do not validate who you are. Having a man or woman in your life is not what stops you from being lonely. I know very many lonely boo’s and bae’s lol. Being single doesn’t mean lonely and also being single is not a defect. Do not yourself lose your peace or let anyone make you feel depressed

These are just a few tips to stay in peace in your single state

1. Stay your heart on God ( Isa 26:3)
2. Seek out His promises and stay on them bearing in mind Abraham, Hannah and many others who saw promises fulfilled
3. Spend your time empowering yourself and developing your skills and talents. Use this stage to discover your purpose and pursue it
4. Take away the time factor and unnecessary comparisons with others. Your life is on a different calendar from that of others
5. Stop the obsession with marriage. Marriage is not a do or die affair and not everyone might end up being married
6. Take away the age factor. It is not about doing things early but doing them right

 

Peace makes us receive more than worry. Your better half is on the way so stay in peace.

How To Be Found By Yours- 5

Getting found is a process. Patience is needed for the process to be materialized as well as established. In as much as the man has to do the finding, the lady has to ensure she is adequately positioned. If interest and attraction already in place, check to see that your priorities in place and more so it won’t hurt to do some compatibility checks.

1. Spiritual Compatibility  (Amos 3:3)
2. Financial Compatibility ( Heb 13:5, Matt6:24 , Prov 17:16)
3. Character Compatibility (Prov 22:24)
4. Emotional Compatibility (Prov 27:17)
5. Communication Compatibility ( Eph 4:26, Prov 18:13)
6. Physical Compatibility (1 Pet 3:3-4, Gen 24:16, Gen 29:17, I sam 16:12, Est 2:7)

Yes compatibility checks. This will help you know if you have found yours or the finding process needs to continue. All categories must not be 100% but which ever you choose to make prime, it should be based on the purpose you believe you are here on earth to fulfill. Hope the list helps

How To Be Found By Yours- 4

Personally i love love. So do not get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing. Does that mean we should go about worrying about love and who will love us or who we will love? Well no. Love is seeking (purposefully) not worrying. Seeking to be and do things right and in perspective. Marriage is for eternity and is meant to bring glory to The marriage Creator. This brings me to my 4th Tip

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours – 3

 

Now onto our 3^rd tip on how to be found by yours

Tip 3 : Get Working

Yes I know you already have a job or are in the process of getting one. However, that is not what I mean. Begin working on yourself both on your in-looks and out-looks. You must be pleasantly admirable. We do marry humans not spirits… so work on both the physical you and the spirit you. Work on your potentials.Put your priorities in order.

Take this single season to grow yourself into the best of you that you can be because when married you will be occupied by many new things and you need to be in a state to attract what whom you desire

A wise man once said that “until you do the right thing, your rights will not be given to you” so get working so you can attract what will make for your glorious destiny

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours- 2

Your want to be found be yours, my next tip

Tip 2: Be Content

This is not to say get sloppy or lose interest but celebrate this stage of singleness knowing that chance and time happens to all. If you keep wishing you were in a relationship or married, you will miss out on the fun of this stage and the learning you need to, do that will prepare you for the next of your life.

Life is in stages. Some people maybe ahead of you at one stage or another, it doesn’t mean your turn will not come. Creation was purposefully made so celebrate where you are now and look forward to where you will be soonest not from the eyes of desperation but from a place of confidence and worth.

Hope tip 1 was helpful. Stay blessed

For or Against Arranged Dating?

 

Many people have varied views on and against arranged married. The truth is whether arranged or not, all requires smart work to make the best of it. What about arranged dating ? or in a more 21^sT Century style; hook-up?

It sounds like a cliché question yet we see this happen to us or those around us every now and then. It’s basically parents, friends or relations connecting us with a man or guy on the grounds that we get to know them on a more personal note a develop a relationship with them be it healthy and not. Do not get me wrong, God uses people but we must be guided

Arrange dating is usually done for many reasons not limited to the supposed need for love, relationship, sex, money, events partners etc

At one point in time, a lovely cousin thought my singleness was too long gone and need for me to break free from my “ limiting lifestyle” and get a boyfriend as I was neither seen with a guy or talking about one or more importantly social “mediaing” a relationship with boo. So she arranged for me to meet a buddy of hers as he too kind of like the pictures of me he had seen. Good motives she had but given that we were not on the same part of life I should not have looked into the offer because even though then I was sloppy with my Christian race I still knew that certain people “scammers, yahoo yahoo guys or con men should not be the kind I should be around, You know what they say about the company you keep.

Because my love level for God was on the low and also given the fact that I knew our meeting up will not come from my pocket I went along. It was both wasted time and worth reducing just hanging around them but I guess it was for a day as today as I encourage someone to choose better.

The point is this, it is not wrong for people to want to arrange a partner for you if that is what you prefer or want but then, who is the head of the arrangement? How do this person they are arranging fit into your life and purpose? What is their take on the things that are prime to you? We all need help in life but we have to mindful of who is making the arrangement and if it aligns with your lives purposes and if God is at the center of it. If not please walk away. Do not try to save face and destroy your life.

Advice: You can look for it and read all about it in the book of the Eternal One.
None of these creatures will be missing and none will lack a mate
Because His voice has given the order
and His Spirit has gathered them in that place.Isa34:16. God is faithful. His Spirit will gather yours to you if you stay fervent