Missing Out On Purpose

It is oftentimes easy to miss out on purpose when we meet some that matches our passion and dreams. We have to be careful not to miss out on the purpose for which ,God created the meeting. #Inquiry

Life they say begins with a meeting

They met in church. Never really spoke spoke to each other but every gaze was defined. It had deep rooted visible meanings not just to her but to all that saw. This is perfect. God knows how to answer prayers that keep all the compatibility checks in place( spiritual, emotional, financial, communication … add to her list)

It seemed like everything she prayed for. Their purpose and passions we so in line and yes they were all serving in church. Church doesn’t kill the demons we have Christ does. Things seemed great till other girls furry grew. Unknown to her his past and present fondling’s with them was the cause. How do you do church and still try to play “Christ”.

She talked to him about it. Her zeal for God seemed to trim the sloppiness of his faith. Time and age was pressing on their relationship. Insecurities set in and pride took over. Pride and love cannot co-exist. Never. Too many emotional wounds and blackmails grew. Compromise was beginning to have foothold. The strong hold had to be broken. We often want to impose our answers on God and yet ask for His “Will”. They had to sit down and be honest with each other. They were trying to impose on destiny and not pursue destiny. They parted ways and remain distant friends and now both basking in the Glory of His goodness. If live makes their part cross again, good but if not purpose is being lived in their separate lives

My Temporal Love Affair – Part 1

Life is a gift. The Giver helps us make the most of it

 

We miss it sometimes and that is totally okay so long as lessons are learnt.

I sensed that something great was coming my way. You know how they often say trust your intuition, it was beyond that. I sensed it in my spirit and other close friends even mentioned so. We met on a “God” platform. Every single thing and word seemed to fit ( deja vu). Was it really so?

I got carried away with “God” talk and so too the familiarity with scripture quote. The talks and chats felt so great that i saw a future that brought heaven to earth and streamed many to His presence. We talked about the past in a way that only makes a sister see an understanding future. Now hands up to that single christian sister who doesn’t want a #word and understanding man on her list. lol.

Now I began to feel like i should keep this a secret even from myself so that naysayers and monitoring spirits don’t pry and spoil a powerful hell wrecking God-glory bringing union. I was so wrong. He helped me fueled this thought which i nursed unconsciously. Did I check with His Spirit that bares witness with mine if I am on track?……………….. To be continued

 

 

How To Be Found By Yours- 5

Getting found is a process. Patience is needed for the process to be materialized as well as established. In as much as the man has to do the finding, the lady has to ensure she is adequately positioned. If interest and attraction already in place, check to see that your priorities in place and more so it won’t hurt to do some compatibility checks.

1. Spiritual Compatibility  (Amos 3:3)
2. Financial Compatibility ( Heb 13:5, Matt6:24 , Prov 17:16)
3. Character Compatibility (Prov 22:24)
4. Emotional Compatibility (Prov 27:17)
5. Communication Compatibility ( Eph 4:26, Prov 18:13)
6. Physical Compatibility (1 Pet 3:3-4, Gen 24:16, Gen 29:17, I sam 16:12, Est 2:7)

Yes compatibility checks. This will help you know if you have found yours or the finding process needs to continue. All categories must not be 100% but which ever you choose to make prime, it should be based on the purpose you believe you are here on earth to fulfill. Hope the list helps

How To Be Found By Yours- 4

Personally i love love. So do not get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing. Does that mean we should go about worrying about love and who will love us or who we will love? Well no. Love is seeking (purposefully) not worrying. Seeking to be and do things right and in perspective. Marriage is for eternity and is meant to bring glory to The marriage Creator. This brings me to my 4th Tip

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours – 3

 

Now onto our 3^rd tip on how to be found by yours

Tip 3 : Get Working

Yes I know you already have a job or are in the process of getting one. However, that is not what I mean. Begin working on yourself both on your in-looks and out-looks. You must be pleasantly admirable. We do marry humans not spirits… so work on both the physical you and the spirit you. Work on your potentials.Put your priorities in order.

Take this single season to grow yourself into the best of you that you can be because when married you will be occupied by many new things and you need to be in a state to attract what whom you desire

A wise man once said that “until you do the right thing, your rights will not be given to you” so get working so you can attract what will make for your glorious destiny

Tips On How To Be Found By Yours – 1

 

The relationship world is one of the busiest of all in this age and time. Most people are in love relationship, others are in a benefit relationships, others marriage in relationships. Yet more are longing to find their own partners to settle down. So here is the foundation of this series.

Tip 1:

Be Truly Alone

Most people want to settle down but they are already settled and yet hope to be found. Be truly alone and the one will find you. If you are occupied then you are not available for the one to find you. Be single and you will be found. Playing games only makes you stupid ; self deceit is the worst of all deceit. Stop dragging around unnecessary relationships. Be honest to yourself and make room for what you want, desire and deserve and you will get the best…

Just my thought….what do you think?

Long Distance Relationship: An Escape Route From Pre-marital Sex

Relationships are the best thing in this life. It could be with God, parents, children, husband, wife, friends, cousins and the list is endless. However today , I want to share mine which was an emotional one where all sorts of butterfly feelings interplay and most often demands made.

Love is a beautiful thing. I love love. I had the notion before getting to the Uni that the first man I will love will be my husband so I prayed that it be so. No it wasn’t the case. I got my heart broken because I never really knew what the world had define a love relationship between a boy and a girl. The world had so fixed the sequence in a way that, once the guy makes his intention known and the lady says yes.. the first few weeks and in a few cases months, then the next big thing is SEX and more sex as long as the relationship last till you get to the next one and the sequence replays itself.

That is not what I was educated to accept and with the love of God shared in my heart that is not the part I was to go. I am supposed to keep my body till marriage and freely surrender to my husband. The more you said no the sex after prolonged kissing trails, you are looked at as mean and not considerate. So what is there to do but pray for a better option that will not hurt you once you say no to SEX. That was how I got into my first long distance relationship.

Now see the logic. My partner will not be physically around so no demands of sex will be made and i won’t have to turn down the demand and end up heart broken. There will be no physical kissing and the likes. Again this is not to say that long distance relationships do not have their own sin packages. Yes sin package as it demands will move from demanding long calls, snoopy lifestyle to nude pictures and skype stripping and more and if those too turned down… you find yourself at the same spot.

The point I want to leave us with is this. Let love be genuine and never compromise  your beliefs for temporary pleasures. Also do not settle for a convenient relationship but go for someone that values you and your principles and at the center of your love affair should be God and his ways. It is not about a guy in church as from my experience those are the ones that encourage you to fornicate with your eyes wide open under the umbrella of grace. Grace is not sloppy. Do not use long distance relationships as an escape from pre-marital sex because if you will not have sex physically , I am telling you if your foundation in God is not solid you will have phone sex and every other kind of social media relationship perversion.

Go for a relationship that adds to you and not one which subtracts from you. Loving God in this age and time is not easy both for young Christian gents and ladies but I am more thankful that we have the Holy Ghost and with Him we can run through a troop and leap over walls.

What is your take on long distance relationships?

 

Wisdom Quote: Content

Comfortable Being Single

I got so comfortable being single that a failed to respond to love or welcome it’s coming. Singleness is not a defect or something to shun. It’s phase and like every other thing it too will pass. But we Christian singles have to know where to strike a balance.

It’s phase and like every other thing it too will pass

Miss independent has so crept in that it battles our very command to be submissive. I am no longer a victim but I was a victim playing “I CAN HANDLE MYSELF”. I discovered I was “putting God on a hot seat”, praying for my own man yet not making room for any man both by my ways and actions.. actions more.

Being single yet not truly single

Our confused state can’t confuse God. Do not invest in prayers and disregard the answers yet by yourself. Sometimes we claim to be single yet we aren’t truly single because we are playing a “waiting to hear from God “ with plenty men on the line so that when we decide that being single is no longer what we want to be called, we can pick from the many. God can’t be mocked . What we sow, we reap.

Take Home: It is fine to celebrate God in our single state and be comfortable being single but let’s also know when it’s time to embrace answers to our prayers. God doesn’t work across purposes. Let us clean house for real and be ready to receive His best when it comes to us

Much love

 

For or Against Arranged Dating?

 

Many people have varied views on and against arranged married. The truth is whether arranged or not, all requires smart work to make the best of it. What about arranged dating ? or in a more 21^sT Century style; hook-up?

It sounds like a cliché question yet we see this happen to us or those around us every now and then. It’s basically parents, friends or relations connecting us with a man or guy on the grounds that we get to know them on a more personal note a develop a relationship with them be it healthy and not. Do not get me wrong, God uses people but we must be guided

Arrange dating is usually done for many reasons not limited to the supposed need for love, relationship, sex, money, events partners etc

At one point in time, a lovely cousin thought my singleness was too long gone and need for me to break free from my “ limiting lifestyle” and get a boyfriend as I was neither seen with a guy or talking about one or more importantly social “mediaing” a relationship with boo. So she arranged for me to meet a buddy of hers as he too kind of like the pictures of me he had seen. Good motives she had but given that we were not on the same part of life I should not have looked into the offer because even though then I was sloppy with my Christian race I still knew that certain people “scammers, yahoo yahoo guys or con men should not be the kind I should be around, You know what they say about the company you keep.

Because my love level for God was on the low and also given the fact that I knew our meeting up will not come from my pocket I went along. It was both wasted time and worth reducing just hanging around them but I guess it was for a day as today as I encourage someone to choose better.

The point is this, it is not wrong for people to want to arrange a partner for you if that is what you prefer or want but then, who is the head of the arrangement? How do this person they are arranging fit into your life and purpose? What is their take on the things that are prime to you? We all need help in life but we have to mindful of who is making the arrangement and if it aligns with your lives purposes and if God is at the center of it. If not please walk away. Do not try to save face and destroy your life.

Advice: You can look for it and read all about it in the book of the Eternal One.
None of these creatures will be missing and none will lack a mate
Because His voice has given the order
and His Spirit has gathered them in that place.Isa34:16. God is faithful. His Spirit will gather yours to you if you stay fervent