Your Permission


What are world we live in!!!

There is so much deception so much so that WE get deceived as you rely  on how deception is and does manifest!

I know it can drain you when it feels or you know that you have been exploited or used

No one makes you what you don’t give them permission to. Continue reading

YOUR PERFECT MAN FOR ME


The Perfect man

Your opinion of my prefect man is perfect. I appreciate your love because in your eyes I see he is perfect. The right height, appropriate age, prefect skin colour, fine eyes, glittering teeth and those drop dead abs with the right number of veins on his muscular skin, being able to lift me up to touch the moon and put me in a sweet dream(#put me to bed).

So I got to thinking;

Did you check if he has the right heart and loves the Most High?

Did you check just his skin or the scares that are born out of unconditional sacrifices?

Are his eyes just fine or do you think he will fill me life with fun and laughter and make me smile out my white teeth?

Is he just aged or mature?

Is it just the veins or you’re sure he will value me and bring out the best in me?

Is it just about lifting my body what happens to my Spirit?

Will i just have sweet dreams or be in the sweet place at the end of life?

Your answer will make me look into your opinion for me.

Be a Church; Do Not Play Church


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Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? 1 Cor 3:16

In Africa and especially Cameroon (my great Fatherland); Growing up oops! I played church. Myself and kid brother will go to church where we were sure it will close soonest so we could be back home to eat or play. You know what they say “being a child and being into childish way”. It was a fun thing for me; can you relate with that?

Coming of age, I experienced a love that knew no wrong. It just brings you to a place that it’s not about men and expectations, it’s about a love that you can’t help but be true to despite falling and falling and yet waking at mercies feet.

I discovered from moving from church to church which we have lots in Cameroon, (I didn’t move to many per say but visited other churches; we are body, so these have different names (parts); somehow it was like a vague repetition; so much copy and paste, so much do’s and don’ts. It’s like you are torn between which to follow, what to wear or not wear and how they represent the church that we are not the building that we attend service in.

The focus turned to the building and impressing other or making an impression, it moved from being a temple where the Almighty can dwell, move and have being in; to impact others lives to taking care of the floors, walls, and designs (oh nothing is wrong in making the physical good even as the real temple is in top form)” What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 1 Cor 6:19”

Saying on Sunday you want revival and on Monday can’t even find your bible? Playing church!

Having a form of religion and denying the Power thereof? Playing church!

Have you being playing church? It’s time to be a church

WHICH HURTS THE MOST?


Thoughts can be words

I find myself thinking aloud and thoughts pacing to and fro.

So which hurts the most “SAYING NOTHING AND WISHING YOU SAID SOMETHING OR SAYING SOMETHING AND WISHING YOU DIDNT”?

In my personal opinion but ends can make the heart fonder or harder. I know right. To me it is always right to free your emotions. Even if you won’t appreciate me for what I said, I will be happy I spoke from my heart.

I know the power in words, I prefer to speak. Let me know what you think . It is the reason we are here

Men Preferences


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You know what they say about going to a fast food joint on a festive day right? You get to a place like Wendy’s and you hear people placing thier orders. One says “I want cheese burger” and other “beef burger” ;reason-because all through the week their meals have had chicken touch to it and  another “ vegetable burger” as they are trying to keep fit.

It resonates to me well and I related it to us ladies and our preferences in men ( just my loud mind talking)

Finisher men are more attractive than starters

Fix it men are preferred to fondling ones

Praying men are preferred to players

Listeners are preferred to garrulous men.. @Atim’s

Ladies help me add the list and guys do you agree?

Happy Sunday

LADIES- TRUTHS TO KNOW


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After my earlier post on GUYS- TRUTHS TO KNOW, so many beautiful comments and remarks came in and above all some honest criticism followed like” you are biased by leaving the guys section out”. So now ladies these are a few truth we have to know so that we do not end up cursing no one but ourselves. Men bow to Respect, Loyalty and Care.

A girl who does not fear God will hardly be his pick when he finally decides is isle time. To them it goes beyond beauty and brains. He needs to be sure that his investment won’t be reinvested in a wrong place (lol)

A ladies worth is more in her character than her appearance. Before you start quoting wrong, please look good, dress good, smell good, put the right make it but be sure to know that it goes beyond the physical. It’s not like as it’s popularly said that they look for their mama in you, no; they just need to know that you know loyalty, tenacity and will teach the kids right morals.

A lady who cannot cook, clean and handle basic domestic chaos is not even on the list of possible winners. Call it 14th century or 21st; the belly power stands out. No one is asking you to be “master chef” or spring cleaning expert. You won’t want to blame Delilah for taking care of the man you ought to have handled right.

A lady who is too swallowed up in “miss independent” disqualifies herself. It is good to work and be able to handle stuffs but men are providers. No man rich or poor, fat or slim, tall or short will let the part of his ego be trample because you are a career woman and financially viable. Everything has its place. Men Pursue, Provide and Protect. Take this away from them and you will not be the one; can never I beg to say.

A lady who doesn’t know how to pamper her man, well you know what they say; all men are big babies. Like us they need affection. They need some tender loving. I didn’t say you should start doing to bfs what is done to husbands but in all pampering has its place in all. Do not be all “Margret Tachery” and needy like they too do not have needs. No man likes to be nagged at.

A lady who cannot comprehend that men love their mothers and will somewhat want a piece of that in their wife doesn’t imply that they need you bossing down their throats and acting all control freak. Let them have their space and they will make adequate room for you J

Men are not only after beauty but brains. A lazy woman who thinks a man should be her sponsor is in for a loss. Ladies get working. Do not see him as a solely a provider and you the eater be a contributor.

It’s not compatibility but suitability.

Let me know what you think?

A Moms Love


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You might not have grown knowing what that felt but you knew what it meant

A love so absent yet so present and real

A love so strong that no ill talk or hurt can change it

It grows from within and stays within even through thick and thin

A love that prays in late hours

A love that works tireless

A love that cooks and improvises

A love that comforts and teaches even in the most unlikely manners

A love that suit and sorts out our  emotions

A love that is pass defining

A love that magnifies in individual lives uniquely

Happy mothers day to all mothers

Much love to all mothers in my life

It Beats Riches


A true friend

A true friend is one who does not search for wealth, riches or company but searches for understanding, trust and care which goes to yield true happiness.A true friend is one who we adore, respect and cherish; and it must be reciprocal, against all odds.

A true friend is one who does not strive to be loved and to love in return, knowing that love is not just a matter of sharing but instead brings in you a powerful sense of understanding and belonging.

A true friend is one who does not worry about love and is not judgmental, because love is the knowledge but honors its coming with soul, body and spirit.

Angry At Men, Mad at Women


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I am angry at men for the lies they tell and mad at women for believing all of it

I am angry at men for thinking that being the head means they have the brains and mad at women for letting the head overplay the heart. There is truly no head without a heart.

I am angry at men who are threaten by a woman’s success and mad at women who let this insecurities curb their potentials

I am angry at men who treat women like trash and mad at women who do not know their worth

I am angry at men who think is okay to keep late nights (family) and mad at women who stay up all night to wait for them giving them more room.

I am angry at men who call every women they meet “baby, sweet etc’’ and mad at women who smile to it; I mean does he even know your name (flirting side)

At the end I smile because if there is no woman, there is no man and hence no world. Women know your worth, be virtuous, submissive yet wise.

One Day At A Time


I’m only human, I’m just a woman.
Help me believe in what I could be
And all that I am.

Some days just feel heavy when actually it is a day to rejoice and be glad. If you remember this song, join me sing or complete it. “Old school hymns have a way to relate to us directly.

Show me the stairway, I have to climb.
Lord for my sake, teach me to take
One day at a time.

Chorus:
One day at a time sweet Jesus
That’s all I’m asking from you.
Just give me the strength
To do everyday what I have to do.
Yesterday’s gone sweet Jesus……………………………