YOUR PERFECT MAN FOR ME

Your opinion of my prefect man is perfect. I appreciate your love because in your eyes I see he is perfect. The right height, appropriate age, prefect skin colour, fine eyes, glittering teeth and those drop dead abs with the right number of veins on his muscular skin, being able to lift me up to touch the moon and put me in a sweet dream(#put me to bed).

So I got to thinking;

Did you check if he has the right heart and loves the Most High?

Did you check just his skin or the scares that are born out of unconditional sacrifices?

Are his eyes just fine or do you think he will fill me life with fun and laughter and make me smile out my white teeth?

Is he just aged or mature?

Is it just the veins or you’re sure he will value me and bring out the best in me?

Is it just about lifting my body what happens to my Spirit?

Will i just have sweet dreams or be in the sweet place at the end of life?

Your answer will make me look into your opinion for me.

WHICH HURTS THE MOST?

I find myself thinking aloud and thoughts pacing to and fro.

So which hurts the most “SAYING NOTHING AND WISHING YOU SAID SOMETHING OR SAYING SOMETHING AND WISHING YOU DIDNT”?

In my personal opinion but ends can make the heart fonder or harder. I know right. To me it is always right to free your emotions. Even if you won’t appreciate me for what I said, I will be happy I spoke from my heart.

I know the power in words, I prefer to speak. Let me know what you think . It is the reason we are here

Men Preferences

You know what they say about going to a fast food joint on a festive day right? You get to a place like Wendy’s and you hear people placing thier orders. One says “I want cheese burger” and other “beef burger” ;reason-because all through the week their meals have had chicken touch to it and  another “ vegetable burger” as they are trying to keep fit.

It resonates to me well and I related it to us ladies and our preferences in men ( just my loud mind talking)

Finisher men are more attractive than starters

Fix it men are preferred to fondling ones

Praying men are preferred to players

Listeners are preferred to garrulous men.. @Atim’s

Ladies help me add the list and guys do you agree?

Happy Sunday

LADIES- TRUTHS TO KNOW

After my earlier post on GUYS- TRUTHS TO KNOW, so many beautiful comments and remarks came in and above all some honest criticism followed like” you are biased by leaving the guys section out”. So now ladies these are a few truth we have to know so that we do not end up cursing no one but ourselves. Men bow to Respect, Loyalty and Care.

A girl who does not fear God will hardly be his pick when he finally decides is isle time. To them it goes beyond beauty and brains. He needs to be sure that his investment won’t be reinvested in a wrong place (lol)

A ladies worth is more in her character than her appearance. Before you start quoting wrong, please look good, dress good, smell good, put the right make it but be sure to know that it goes beyond the physical. It’s not like as it’s popularly said that they look for their mama in you, no; they just need to know that you know loyalty, tenacity and will teach the kids right morals.

A lady who cannot cook, clean and handle basic domestic chaos is not even on the list of possible winners. Call it 14^th century or 21^st; the belly power stands out. No one is asking you to be “master chef” or spring cleaning expert. You won’t want to blame Delilah for taking care of the man you ought to have handled right.

A lady who is too swallowed up in “miss independent” disqualifies herself. It is good to work and be able to handle stuffs but men are providers. No man rich or poor, fat or slim, tall or short will let the part of his ego be trample because you are a career woman and financially viable. Everything has its place. Men Pursue, Provide and Protect. Take this away from them and you will not be the one; can never I beg to say.

A lady who doesn’t know how to pamper her man, well you know what they say; all men are big babies. Like us they need affection. They need some tender loving. I didn’t say you should start doing to bfs what is done to husbands but in all pampering has its place in all. Do not be all “Margret Tachery” and needy like they too do not have needs. No man likes to be nagged at.

A lady who cannot comprehend that men love their mothers and will somewhat want a piece of that in their wife doesn’t imply that they need you bossing down their throats and acting all control freak. Let them have their space and they will make adequate room for you J

Men are not only after beauty but brains. A lazy woman who thinks a man should be her sponsor is in for a loss. Ladies get working. Do not see him as a solely a provider and you the eater be a contributor.

It’s not compatibility but suitability.

Let me know what you think?

When Pride Meets Truth

I’m not sure if it’s haughtiness or naughtiness or even high self-esteem

The way you talk, feeling all supreme to others

The way act like you created the heavens and the earth and own all in it

The way you move like the earth is no worth for your feet on it

Acting people should be at your mercy

Acting like you got it all together

Acting like your ways are the best ways

All you bring is opposition

All you is bring a fall to your followers

All your bring is brokenness beyond repair

When you will meet Truth you will know that you are just a breath, a vapour

When you will meet Truth you will know that only His ways are High ways

When you will meet Truth you will know that the creature cannot be greater the Creator

Your worth is in Him ONLY

Pride goes before a fall that is the Truth.

Musings: Distractions

Which is the greatest battle against your fulfillment of destiny/ PURPOSE?

I have been battling distractions lately from the purposeful and gainful things i need to do. How do you handle either? Your feedback will really help

 

True Colors

There is more to life than faking of reality

Hahaha lol No… I am not about to provide you with the lyrics of one of your favorite love song in the 80’s “true color”. We all want a good life, a stress free one, which is very essential in the busy and chaotic world we live in. Did you think that it’s only for the bad that these pressures or challenges you are facing are set out for? Well I use to think so too but now I am having a change of perspective.

Don’t run from tests and hardships, brothers and sisters. As difficult as they are, you will ultimately find joy in them; if you embrace them, your faith will blossom under pressure and teach you true patience as you endure. And true patience brought on by endurance will equip you to complete the long journey and cross the finish line—mature, complete, and wanting nothing (James 1:2-4 Voice)

Self deceit is the worse of them all

Did you try to find out what the situation is working in you or for you? It’s never wasted you know especially when you know your live is in His hands. I am not saying wallow in hardships and pressures but I think you should let it work out the perfecting of your “True Colors”. Let it make you get to know you and how well to work better on yourself so as to be everything you are called out to be.( E.g. a few arguments thought me that I had to develop a good listening ear than a wrangling tongue and stop my outburst; it’s still a process but the good thing is I know where I need to work) What has your situation thought you or  is teaching you?

Our Speech

We ;

Can ruin the world

Turn harmony to chaos

Throw mud on a reputation

Send the whole world up in smoke

And we go up in smoke with it

A bridled tongue we need.

@James 3:5-6

You Are Not My Inspiration

Your Potentials- you are not my inspiration.

People do not define you so they do not own your inspiration, You were approved by Him only before you were created.

Watch and be blessed and make remarks.

Facts About Truths (P1)- Sex

 

The truth will set us free that what the bible says and I believe it ;I don’t know about you. Also some great people once said that; the truth is bitter but must be spoken. Others said ‘the truth may hurt but lies is agony’ and again speaking the truth is love.

The truth is, when you know the truth life will take different phases and stare hard on you. You will try to avoid what you know is not right and above all what doesn’t please God. Furthermore when you know the truth it brings with it further truths which might hurt you or others, which might please you or others but the truth remains truth.

The truth about sex is that it is good and God made it so. But also another truth about sex is that it’s only for married people whether you agree or not and that’s why the bible says that if you can’t control your feelings get married.

Another truth about sex is that in our generation it has become the base for love in a relationship  even among “believers”or better says it has replaced it.  Life is really unpredictable, some guys come for love but at the end of the day it was sex they were looking for and all types of sensations that deals with the flesh. The awful feeling at the end is to realize that they were really for sex and this truth hurts.