They can only be to what what they are to you not what you expect them to be
If we spend our days expecting people to be this or that to us, we might just end of destroying what we have with them or enjoy a fake version of them.
Every friend is different and so too every friendship. Do not judge one by another. In all fairness your comparison is baseless
Enjoy the beauty of the uniqueness of the people in your life or office or church. At the end know that your happiness comes first. Do not live in the bubble of people’s expectation or yours of them