For or Against Arranged Dating?

 

Many people have varied views on and against arranged married. The truth is whether arranged or not, all requires smart work to make the best of it. What about arranged dating ? or in a more 21^sT Century style; hook-up?

It sounds like a cliché question yet we see this happen to us or those around us every now and then. It’s basically parents, friends or relations connecting us with a man or guy on the grounds that we get to know them on a more personal note a develop a relationship with them be it healthy and not. Do not get me wrong, God uses people but we must be guided

Arrange dating is usually done for many reasons not limited to the supposed need for love, relationship, sex, money, events partners etc

At one point in time, a lovely cousin thought my singleness was too long gone and need for me to break free from my “ limiting lifestyle” and get a boyfriend as I was neither seen with a guy or talking about one or more importantly social “mediaing” a relationship with boo. So she arranged for me to meet a buddy of hers as he too kind of like the pictures of me he had seen. Good motives she had but given that we were not on the same part of life I should not have looked into the offer because even though then I was sloppy with my Christian race I still knew that certain people “scammers, yahoo yahoo guys or con men should not be the kind I should be around, You know what they say about the company you keep.

Because my love level for God was on the low and also given the fact that I knew our meeting up will not come from my pocket I went along. It was both wasted time and worth reducing just hanging around them but I guess it was for a day as today as I encourage someone to choose better.

The point is this, it is not wrong for people to want to arrange a partner for you if that is what you prefer or want but then, who is the head of the arrangement? How do this person they are arranging fit into your life and purpose? What is their take on the things that are prime to you? We all need help in life but we have to mindful of who is making the arrangement and if it aligns with your lives purposes and if God is at the center of it. If not please walk away. Do not try to save face and destroy your life.

Advice: You can look for it and read all about it in the book of the Eternal One.
None of these creatures will be missing and none will lack a mate
Because His voice has given the order
and His Spirit has gathered them in that place.Isa34:16. God is faithful. His Spirit will gather yours to you if you stay fervent